Choose your path

You know which plants are in your garden, you know what is important to you, what plants you need to take care of?.

What are you doing to care for these plants? If you already know what you want, you have to decide now that you have to do to make your plants flourish, pay for them, care for them, watering them, requires time and effort to keep them as you wish them to be. For example, if one of your plants is to have better health and you've decided to lose weight 5 kg to achieve this you have to change your diet, exercise and be consistant in order to achieve weight loss. This will not be easy, you may feel anxiety, fear of failure, feeling this way is inevitable, but our actions do not depend on what we feel or what we think, we control what we do, in a given time can move out thoughts that tell you what "you are sad, eats a bit of chocolate for motivation", but you decide who is stronger, is it you or your thoughts. It is important to not forget where you are going, imagine that you are going on a trip and you're heading to the north, where there is a mountain to which you want to go, during the journey by car there are parties to the exchange with clarity the mountain and others in which you'll pass through a tunnel, it is all part of the path that you have to go through before we reach the mountain. Sometimes it requires paying attention to the next step that you must give but without stoping and keeping sight of the mountain, if you focus only on the road you have to follow you'll end up losing sight of the mountain and if you only focus your gaze on the mountain, not knowing the steps you need to get to get to it. Therefore it is important to keep in mind the 5 kg that you want to lose but also the meals you have to prepare each day, the exercise that you have to practice, etc. Along the route up to the mountain our thoughts will be bothering us once in a while trying to distract us, it is as if we were a few traveling companions who want to change the direction of the car all the time and they are constantly nagging at us, they tell you that you should go to another place and the only way they to stop them from speaking is to do what they want, if you do this the pressure will stop but you will never really achieve what you want. On the other hand, you have the option to continue your path by accepting the comments of your companions but even so reaching the mountains. As commented above you can't control your thoughts, but you can control your actions, if you don't feel that you're able imagine you saying that if you touch the screen of the computer you won't get to the mountain and now repeat it in your mind "touches the screen", just think that you have to play it? Or can you take that thought and still not touch the screen? This will happen when you're working in caring for your plants, you will come certain thoughts and feelings but you can continue to nurture plants accepting to have these thoughts without giving them attention, because what happens if we pay attention to the thoughts that come to us? Now imagine that you make a feast in your house and the whole world is invited, you can't reject entry to anyone. There will be people that you will be pleasant to you, but also have other that are not. During the feast a homless person that is dirty, smelly, eats with his hands and you find it annoying, so you're trying to throw him out it but he returns because you can't forbid entry to anyone. You decide to follow and watch what he does, to make sure he does not get in any fight, to clean up what he sullies, the party goes on however, you're not enjoying your party because you are behind the wanderer, if you must let him go and you're with the rest of the guests, eating and dancing while the bum gets dirty, you'll be enjoying the feast, this happens with your thoughts, you're primarily looking not to think about, to eliminate the thoughts that come and while you spend your effort on this are not caring for your plants, if you spend your time to weed who is going to take care of the flowers.

A.P.M

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